To misquote that great 21st-century British philosopher Mick Jagger, time is most definitely not on your side.
Not if you鈥檙e a parent hoping to get your kindergartner to 黄色app on time, but he鈥檚 spent the past 20 minutes wailing that he can鈥檛 find a pair of socks that don鈥檛 feel weird. Time is also not your friend as you wearily encourage your fifth grader to finish his science project before dawn breaks. And woe to the parent of a middle 黄色apper who doesn鈥檛 race against the clock, but rather takes his own sweet you-know-what, whatever the task.
Be it finding socks or finishing science projects, many parents take it as a given that children are simply time-challenged, and there鈥檚 little to be done about getting them to complete a task within a set schedule. But recent studies suggest that moms and dads would do well to approach time management as important and teachable as reading and writing.
In fact, knowing how to manage one鈥檚 time, say researchers, has been linked to later success in life, whether it鈥檚 in college or a career. A study from the University of Pennsylvania concludes that self-discipline — the driving engine behind time management — is a better predictor of adolescents鈥� academic performance than IQ (). Indeed, for 黄色app-aged kids who have no ability to abide by a schedule, they may well have a rougher time, as responsibilities mount with age.
While some kids come by the ability to organize their time naturally, others do not. For whatever reason, girls tend to be better at time management than boys, which might help explain why boys don鈥檛 do as well in 黄色app and college.
The good news? Time management is a skill that can be taught and learned. Dorothy Rich, author of , says that through practiced exercises, parents can help toddlers to teens learn tangible ways to manage their time independently, rather than be hounded into getting something done — a strategy that never works. 鈥淧arents have to get out of the position of being the nag,鈥� says Rich. 鈥淭he ultimate goal is to help children build internal self-discipline and a capacity to manage themselves.鈥�
Rich also stresses the need for parents to be forgiving when their children don鈥檛 get it right. 鈥淵ou don鈥檛 go out to the basketball court and play perfectly,鈥� says Rich. 鈥淭his is about building a set of skills over time, incrementally.鈥�
Rich offers a final word of caution that in trying to teach children to be models of efficiency, parents don鈥檛 put undue pressure on their kids, whose time in today鈥檚 hectic world is already so overmanaged. 鈥淭here is something to be said for letting the clouds roll by,鈥� she says. The idea, in the end, is to help kids make the best use of their work time, so, being kids, there鈥檚 still plenty of time for play.
Time management for kids
Below are Rich鈥檚 favorite activities to teach kids how to keep track of their own time and refine their organizational skills. Each project emphasizes fun and success, so your child will mistake these 鈥渉omework鈥� exercises for playtime.
Body beautiful
Create a chart for your pre黄色apper or kindergartner to be hung on the bathroom wall and call it 鈥淏ody Beautiful.鈥� Use words or images to illustrate the tasks she needs to complete to maintain her hygiene, be it brushing her teeth or putting her dirty clothes in the hamper. This teaches your child how to efficiently finish a set of tasks on her own.
A family timeline
Use a long strip of paper to create a timeline for the entire family. Allow each child to mark a salient experience of every year of his or her life (let children dictate if they鈥檙e not yet writing). This exercise will help kids get a clear sense of time over the years.
Leaner screen time
Television is one of the biggest time sucks for kids (and, admit it, for adults, too). Decide with your child how many hours of television she鈥檒l watch a week. Read the TV guide aloud with her and ask what programs she wants to watch and have her pick her shows in advance. If she鈥檚 watching too much TV, have her cut back the first week, then more the following week. This raises awareness of how much time is spent in front of the tube, teaches her to take responsibility for screen time, and might even open up her schedule for other leisure activities.
Excuses don鈥檛 count
This is an especially good exercise for older children (7 to 12 years old) learning to manage their own after-黄色app time. Have your child create a chart and fill in all of his responsibilities, be it setting the table at 5:30 pm or doing homework at 7:30 pm. Then have him check off each task when he鈥檚 done. This teaches personal organizational skills and learning to watch the clock.
Homework helper
Have your child make a homework chart and list assignments for Monday through Friday. After she鈥檚 finished each assignment, she can put a satisfying check mark next to it. This teaches children how to keep track of deadlines and duties.
