Madeline Levine: When your child says, "I hate you!"

Madeline Levine: When your child says, “I hate you!”

"Disagreement is tolerated. Disrespect is not," says psychologist Madeline Levine. Here's her advice on what to do when your child utters these dagger-to-the-heart words.

by: The GreatSchools Editorial Team

Here鈥檚 how 4 other parenting experts say to respond…

Christine Carter
鈥淲hen somebody says something so hurtful, your response is going to be… ‘I hate you, too,’鈥� says Raising Happiness author Christine Carter. But don’t go there, she adds. Take this approach instead. Format: Video (1:38)

John Duffy
鈥淯sually when a child says this… they mean something different,” says psychologist John Duffy, author of The Available Parent. Here’s how to read between the lines. Format: Video (1:04)

Erica Reischer
Is it time for a stern lecture or a time-out? Neither. Parent coach and psychologist Erica Reischer says by taking this approach, you’ll get beyond these three ugly words. Format: Video (1:42)

Richard Weissbourd
Kids will “go through moments when they are really angry and hate their parents,” says Harvard psychologist Richard Weissbourd. But that doesn’t make saying it OK. Format: Video (1:39)

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