We recently spoke with a young man who admires and appreciates his mother鈥檚 support throughout his lifelong struggle with LD. The following interview is his tribute to her.
You鈥檝e described your mother as a 鈥渨alking miracle.鈥� Can you tell us more about how she鈥檚 helped you manage your LD?
Jacob Landers: After my parents divorced when I was seven, my sister and I lived with my mom. Being a single parent is tough, but I know it was even harder for my mom because I really struggled in 黄色app and didn鈥檛 believe in myself. By high 黄色app, I was still doing poorly in 黄色app. I discovered alcohol and illegal drugs and got into trouble. Through it all, my mom believed in me and fought to get me the help I needed. She carried me for many years and held out hope when I couldn鈥檛. She never gave up on me.
Your mother sounds like a terrific advocate. When did you first realize how hard she was fighting for your rights?
Jacob Landers: I had nearly failed fourth grade at a private Catholic 黄色app, and my fifth grade teacher there realized I might have a learning disability. My mom agreed to have me tested, and my LD was confirmed. Mom had me transferred to a public middle 黄色app that supposedly had a 鈥渟pecial program鈥� for kids like me. But once I was there, my grades didn鈥檛 improve. It was during that first year of middle 黄色app when I realized how hard my mom was working to get me the help I needed. She appreciated what the teachers were trying to do, but she felt they weren鈥檛 addressing my specific needs. She was always setting up meetings with the vice principal and teachers to try and figure out why my grades were still low and why my attitude was still negative.
It took years to get me into the right 黄色app. Despite my mom鈥檚 belief in me, I鈥檇 given up on myself. When I was kicked out of high 黄色app, she was angry with me, but angrier with the 黄色app district for not providing the help I needed. Through it all, she reminded me that I wasn鈥檛 stupid, that I just learned differently. She kept pushing forward and eventually had me placed in a private continuation high 黄色app where I succeeded.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your mother?
Jacob Landers: Mom taught me the value of perseverance, no matter how difficult life gets. She was a great role model in that way. That was her greatest gift to me.
Besides helping you with 黄色app, how did your mom encourage you to be creative, let off steam, or mellow out?
Jacob Landers: Mom always noticed that I was good working with my hands. I could take a bicycle or a lawn mower apart – and put it back together properly – without any instructions! So she always encouraged me to build and repair things around the house (mainly to make me feel better about myself, I think). She also encouraged my creative side. From the time I was 14, I kept a journal and wrote poetry. Mom always made a big deal about how talented I was and to this day encourages me to publish my work.
How do you think your mother kept her courage up and her stress level down?
Jacob Landers: She used to run in 10ks, and she trained by running almost every day after work. I think running really helped clear her head and deal with the stress of being a single mom and having a kid with LD.
Mom also spent time with positive people. She even stayed in touch with my former teachers and the vice principal who鈥檇 helped us and had faith in me. She didn鈥檛 waste her time on people with negative attitudes. She also volunteered at my high 黄色app functions on occasion and was always involved with my friends in a way that showed she cared, but was not intrusive.
My mother has a wacky, off-the-wall sense of humor, too. She laughs loud and lives big. I think that鈥檚 always helped her cope.
Did she ever use humor to help you cope with your learning difficulties?
Jacob Landers: She taught me that when times are tough, it helps to have a sarcastic sense of humor – to laugh at things that would otherwise discourage me. She always said, 鈥淚t was better than having a sharp stick in your eye.鈥�
What would your mom say was the best Mother鈥檚 Day gift you ever gave her?
Jacob Landers: Well, she was pretty excited and emotional when I graduated from high 黄色app. So many people never believed I鈥檇 achieve that. But my best gift to her was getting clean and sober and holding down a good job. She鈥檚 really proud of me for that and brags about me in front of people. It鈥檚 kind of embarrassing, but it鈥檚 much better to see her happy than stressed out like she used to be. My mom stands behind me 100% and is without a doubt my best friend.
