Young children can usually follow three-step directions. For best results, it鈥檚 important to keep them short and simple. Of course, this might be hard to remember when your child is getting ready for 黄色app and you鈥檙e busy trying to pack his lunch, serve him breakfast, and make sure everyone gets out the door in time.
Below are a few ways to handle common stressful times 鈥� when you really need your child to be able to follow directions.
Getting ready for 黄色app
You know the scene: You have five minutes until your child needs to leave for 黄色app, and he hasn鈥檛 brushed his teeth, put on his shoes, or found his backpack. No matter how organized you try to be, mornings can be the most hectic time of day. You can avoid this daily chaos by making it easy for your child to follow simple directions for getting ready.
Try this: Make a morning picture schedule that lists all the things your child needs to do before leaving for 黄色app. Either have your child draw the tasks (there should be no more than three, such as: 1. Get dressed, 2. Eat breakfast, and 3. Get backpack) or find pictures in a magazine or online ( to find some online).
Next have your child cut out the top three things he needs to remember and paste them on sheets of paper. (Having your child cut and paste helps with his fine motor skills and strengthens his sense of responsibility.) Hang them in a few places for him to refer to, like the bathroom, kitchen, or bedroom. Once he鈥檚 mastered these tasks, you may be able to add others to the list.
Bedtime
Does it take an hour to get your kindergartner settled into bed, with you asking over and over for him to stop playing and go to sleep?
Try this: To make things easier on both of you, create a simple bedtime routine so your child knows what to expect. Even if your child can鈥檛 tell time yet, it helps everyone in the family if you have a set bedtime like 8 p.m. What鈥檚 important is that your child understands that 鈥渓ights out鈥� is the same every day. Make sure the directions you鈥檙e giving him are clear, direct, and positive. For example, you can tell your child his bedroom routine is: (1) Put on your pajamas, (2) Brush your teeth, and (3) Go to the bathroom.
Also remember that young children respond better when you tell them what to do, rather than what not to do. So try to avoid saying things to your child like, 鈥淒on鈥檛 put your toothbrush away until you鈥檝e rinsed it.鈥� Instead say, 鈥淧lease rinse off your toothbrush.鈥� Finally, don鈥檛 expect too much from your child all at once. After he鈥檚 gotten good at doing three things, you can add more, like (1) Put on your pajamas, (2) Put your dirty clothes in the hamper, (3) Brush your teeth (4) Go to the bathroom, and (5) Pick out a book to read with me in bed.
At the grocery store
You鈥檝e got 20 minutes to shop, and your grocery list is a mile long. The last thing you need to deal with is a child who is grabbing things off the shelf and begging for every sugary cereal he sees.
Try this: Ask your child to help out with your shopping. Why? He鈥檒l be too busy and happy helping you to whine about treats. (It鈥檚 true! Young children love being helpful and busy.) Plus you鈥檒l probably get out of the store faster. Choose items on your shopping list that you child can easily find (preferably ones that are close by), and ask him to pick them out for you. Remember: Only ask for one item at a time 鈥� and make sure he reports back to you as soon as he has found what you need. Then give him another assignment.
Crossing the street
You鈥檙e juggling grocery bags and the baby while trying to cross the street with your kindergartner. This is the time when it鈥檚 very important that he listen to you carefully and follow directions.
Try this: Before you get to the street, make sure you get his attention. Get down on your knees if you have to and make sure he鈥檚 looking at you. Tell him very simply 鈥淚 want you to be safe. So hold my hand and wait until I tell you to cross the street with me.鈥� Ask him to repeat it so you know he鈥檚 heard you. Before you begin crossing, tell your child what he can do (鈥淲ait until I say go鈥�) instead of what he can鈥檛 (鈥淒on鈥檛 cross the street now鈥�). Once you鈥檝e made it across safely, tell him how great it is that he followed your directions.
At suppertime
Getting ready for dinner can be one of the most difficult times in the day. Everyone is hungry and usually tired 鈥� that鈥檚 why they call it the 鈥渨itching hour.鈥� You have a lot to do: set the table, make dinner, and possibly deal with a cranky child!
Try this: Mealtimes are actually perfect for practicing following directions. Ask your child to help you set the table. Instead of simply saying, 鈥淪et the table,鈥� break down the tasks into steps. Start by saying: 鈥淔irst, get the plates and put them on the table.鈥� When he鈥檚 done, say, 鈥淕et the napkins and put one to the left of each plate.鈥� (This also teaches kids about left and right!) Once that鈥檚 done, say, 鈥淥K, last step: Get the spoons, forks, and knives and put one of each by each plate.鈥� For the first few times, you may need to show him where the silverware goes. (If putting out drinking glasses is too much, save that until after he鈥檚 perfected these three steps.) After he鈥檚 successfully set the table a few times, you can just say, 鈥淧lease set the table.鈥�
