Oliver Johnson, my quiet grandfather who always poked at the embers in his chimney hearth, had purpose in life.
He realized his direction in 1919 as a young man sitting in his Model T on a road in San Pedro, CA, by the oil and gas storage tanks. He watched three inspectors climb a ladder to the top, descending on the other side into the belly of the iron oval. Five minutes later, a fireball exploded upwards, roasting the trio alive.
鈥淚鈥檓 going to fix that, Elizabeth,鈥 he told my grandmother, seated beside him.
Grandpa became an engineer at Chevron, but on weekends he tinkered to invent electronic 鈥渃anaries in a coal mine鈥 to warn bystanders of toxic and flammable air. After incinerating the basement twice, Grandpa was successful. He formed the world’s first gas detection company, , in Palo Alto, in 1928. His safety gizmos have prevented innumerable deaths.
Fast-forward to the present.
High 黄色app senior Sophia Ware recently emailed me her own epiphany: 鈥淚 watched the documentary about species destruction caused by humanity. Afterwards, I cried. My heart was physically hurt. I was filled with a sense of urgency and responsibility, so I assumed co-leadership of the campus Green Club.鈥
This teenager and my long-deceased ancestor both experienced a strong sense of purpose. We hear their divergent stories and understand a single takeaway: having a sense of purpose can bring meaning and direction to our lives. But what many people don鈥檛 know is that the purpose is a concept that has been defined, measured, and researched for decades.
, director of the , provides a clear definition (with his associates Jenni Menon and Kendall Cotton Bronk) in the 2010 study, “.” The authors define purpose as a “stable and generalized intention to accomplish something that is at once meaningful to the self and of consequence to the world beyond the self.”
The study lists three foundations of purpose:
1. Purpose is a goal of sorts that is both long-term and far-reaching. Day-to-day goals, like studying hard for the calculus exam, or long-term goals, like becoming fluent in Spanish, could be done in service of a bigger goal, like becoming a pediatrician or joining the Peace Corps. But these alone aren鈥檛 purpose. Achieving these goals could be in service of a purpose of ending childhood cancer or reducing famine.
2. Purpose is “part of one鈥檚 personal search for meaning.” But purpose also includes a desire to make a difference in the world, contributing in a way that serves others and not just one’s self.
3. Purpose requires a skill set or talent which can be applied toward this goal. “Purpose is always directed at an accomplishment toward which one can make progress.”
Put more simply, purpose is defined as “a long-term goal for the common good, that one has the skills to succeed in”, and the passion to pursue.
Why is purpose important?
In Damon鈥檚 landmark book , his research discovered 鈥減eople who pursue noble purposes are filled with joy.鈥 Further studies of people who did 鈥渟ocially valuable 鈥榞ood work鈥 in their careers鈥 reinforced his belief that 鈥渆levated purpose” acts as a driver in one’s daily efforts, giving individuals energy, satisfaction, and even persistence when facing life’s obstacles.
What’s more, life without purpose can be detrimental to a young person’s health. Studies reveal young people without purpose are more likely to suffer from , , , and . Conversely, research notes young people with purpose more often, have , , , and motivation. They are and have healthier
Is 鈥減urpose鈥 the same as 鈥減assion鈥? No, it is not.
, principal investigator for the Adolescent Moral Development Lab and a professor of Psychology at Claremont Graduate University, explains. 鈥淧assions refer to objects and activities we really enjoy [and] care deeply about.” Purpose on the other hand is goal-oriented and done “for the world beyond the self.鈥 So a young person might be passionate about hiking and find purpose in working to preserve the environment.鈥
Does every young person find purpose? The sad answer is no.
Damon conducted a study in the early 2000s that indicated only 20 percent of young adults have purpose. The remaining participants in the study were either 鈥渄isengaged鈥 (25 percent had no motivation to care for anyone but themselves), 鈥渄reamers鈥 (25 percent had lofty ideals but they weren鈥檛 moving towards accomplishing them), or 鈥渄abblers鈥 (30 percent had semi-goals but only a weak commitment to pursuing them).
The present generation, Damon believes, is aimless compared to previous eras, because purpose has been demoted to be only 鈥溾 Young people today, he believes, focus too much on financial success and career status, but lack ambition to live for a greater purpose. Teachers, he adds, rarely explain to students the broader, socially-valuable goals their education can lead to.
Anxious now, parents and guardians? Fretting about your purposeless teen who careens around scattered as a chicken with their head cut off? Fear not. With guidance, your young ones can identify and progress toward purpose. But to do that, they need to 1) assess their strengths and capabilities, 2) determine what they love to do, 3) locate a gaping need in the world.
Unfortunately, purpose-finding is not a topic taught in high 黄色app. High 黄色apper Sophia ruefully notes that 鈥渕any teachers seem to encourage a destination-less path through education, so students can avoid the stress of actually finding one’s true purpose.鈥 Locating a reason for living and investing the time and energy to define a young person’s sense of purpose can be done. But finding their purpose often requires guidance and support from the caring adults in their lives.
Here are 8 ways you can support your child in finding their purpose:
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Expose them to a variety of experiences
Kids often find a sense of purpose when they鈥檙e treated to new, unfamiliar adventures. My brother, Rene, found his life direction on a family fishing trip. 鈥淭he first time I felt a tug on the line, that was it,鈥 he told me. 鈥淔ishing completely captivated my interest.鈥 He majored in Aquatics Ecology, and spent his career in Alaska and Oregon helping preserve salmon for future generations.
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Encourage reflection
Bronk advises parents to help their young children 鈥渆ngage in reflection.鈥 After activities, she suggests asking, 鈥淲hy did you like that activity?鈥 鈥淲hat would have made it better?鈥 Helping children reflect, she claims, will help them find their purpose. When they鈥檙e teenagers, Bronk suggests harder questions, like 鈥淲hat do you want to accomplish in your life?鈥 (.) Parents should respond to the answers, Bronk says, 鈥渨ith genuine curiosity. Be non-judgmental and don鈥檛 guide their answers.鈥 Additionally, parents should avoid raining on their child鈥檚 parade — don鈥檛 tell them what they want to do cannot be done. (Check out GreatSchools’ “Like a Sponge” podcast on “The Power of Purpose.” Tip: Go to 11:08 of the podcast for an example of how to talk with your child about purpose.)
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Help teens find the flow
What makes your teen feel 鈥渓ocked in the zone,鈥 fully absorbed, and exhilarated? This brain state — the 鈥渇low鈥 — defines passion as a crucial one-third of the purpose recipe. Teens in the flow are on the path to purpose. They just need to develop the proper skill set and use it to make a positive change in the world. Sophia says, 鈥淚 experience flow when I鈥檓 propelled out of my comfort zone by greater pressure to do what is right. Greater purpose gives me confidence. When I speak at city council meetings about climate change, my hesitations melt because I鈥檓 actively engaged in the solution. I transcend my individual, self-centered fear of public speaking. I鈥檓 in the flow and it is thrilling.鈥
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Model purpose
indicates parents are primary role models in influencing “鈥 When you explain your own goals, motivations, and the meaning in your life with your teenager, they can see how it happens in real life. When you describe how your daily activities, including your purpose as a parent, give you fulfillment because you鈥檙e trying to do your part in making the world a better place, your child will understand the benefits of investing time and energy in finding their purpose.
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Do online assessments
Dabblers, dreamers, and the disengaged can take a wide variety of online tests to help them determine their skills and vocational interests. Both the (by Myers-Briggs) and the divide people into six types of personalities, with ideal occupations specified for everyone. Gallup offers a that aids participants in finding their five most powerful attributes (out of 35) in an hour-long assessment.
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Enlist purpose mentors
Brock suggests that parents put their children into contact with someone who has purpose in an area that their child is interested in. 鈥淭his is reassuring to children, to know they are being supported and helped in this way.鈥 She advises teens to talk with adults they know well (such as trusted friends of the family) to discuss and help them define their purpose. It’s especially helpful if that adult’s purpose aligns with your child’s. For example, if your teenager is interested in a medical profession, connect them with a person you know who works (with purpose and satisfaction) in the medical field such as a doctor, nurse, or EMT.
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Grow their gratitude
Brock says that adolescents who feel grateful will 鈥渨ant to consider how to give back.鈥 She suggests practicing gratitude daily at dinner and elaborating on it on holidays like Thanksgiving. Sophia鈥檚 gratefulness for the beauty of nature motivates her to mitigate climate change, which in turn defines her purpose and gives her life meaning and shape.
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Do this Purpose Mind Map together
This Purpose Mind Map is adapted from the Stanford University study. In the study, pairs of young people interviewed each other about what they cared about, what talents or skills they had, and what change they wanted to see in the world. Then they each drew their own mind map. The point of the study was to measure levels of purpose in young people. But an interesting outcome of the study was that this single 45-minute exercise seemed to improve the young people’s sense of purpose. When researchers contacted the participants six months later, the study participants had significantly higher rates of purpose than they had before.